The overall goal [of counseling] is to help family members become 'systems experts' who could know [their] family system so well that the family could readjust itself without the help of an expert.
That which is created in a relationship can be fixed in a relationship.
We all have an infant inside of us, but the infant doesn't have to run the show.
You have inherited a lifetime of tribulation. Everybody has inherited it. Take it over, make the most of it and when you have decided you know the right way, do the best you can with it.